Addressing Unintentional Harm — Dynamics Seminar

Let's Talk About Unintentional Harm

Shit happened. You had a bad experience, or worse, you unintentionally harmed someone you cared for... How do we address those harms & broken trust? When facing criticism and accusations, how do we create space for open dialogue and understanding? Join us as we explore pre-planning strategies, the concept of harm, and fostering a safer space for honest conversation.

We will be covering topics including (but not limited to):

• Defining harm and how to address them
• Proactive plan for "when shit happens"
• Post-incident communication: create safer space for criticism and accusation
• Balancing validation of our partner's experience with advocating for ourselves
• Growth & Healing oriented practices

Those topics could be triggering and unsettling to some. Please attend if you feel okay with those topics and others sharing their experience, and understand that you could leave ANYTIME during the event.

All experience levels are welcome.

Our aim is to foster a peer-sharing environment where new kinksters could learn from those with more experience. (Or the other way around, you'd never know!)

This is a FREE event. Please purchase drinks or food to support the venue.

While donations to our group are optional, they are recommended and greatly appreciated. All contributions go towards compensating the facilitator.

Please Register for Event Details and Updates

6:30 pm - 7 pm: Meet & Social
7:00 pm - 7:30 pm: Introduction & Ground Rules
7:30 pm - 8:30 pm: Small Group Discussions
8:30 pm - 9:00 pm: Sharing Discoveries and Debriefing
9:00 pm: Event Conclusion. Feel free to stay and socialize!

What Should I Bring?

Yourself and your open mind! You should also bring a pen and notebook to write down all the ideas you come across.

Rules & Guideline

1. Respect the speaker. Give them your undivided attention. Do not talk over others.
2. Let’s try to all contribute to the conversation. At least give a short input, or… “I don’t have an opinion on this yet” Keep your answer <1-2 mins long.
3. If talking about potentially triggering topics please ask consent from the group before telling the story. (Ex. Abuse, Self Harm, Etc.)
4. Respect that others will have differing opinions. Respect their right to express their thoughts. Stay curious and ask questions: Don’t try to convince them to change; instead, try to understand why they believe that. 
5. “Let’s agree to disagree.” A phase to use when you would like to stop discussing this topic. If someone said that, please respect that and move on.
6. Safety Signals: Covering your name tag.

Meet @KentFucius

KentFucius (he/they) embraces queerness, self-awareness, and emotional flexibility. Kent is a passionate kinkster who designs & crafts unique kink toys for impactful play. He is also an active member of our community, often volunteering his time & expertise as a House Top. Kent values personal connections for healthy growth, prioritizing safety and enjoyment. With a background in the human potential movement during 7 years at the Esalen Institute, he has honed profound communication skills, enriching the journey of self-discovery and interpersonal understanding.

Dynamics Seminar

The Dynamics Seminar stands as a bi-weekly sanctuary, meticulously designed to nurture conversations around the multifaceted dimensions and challenges that arise within dynamic relationships.