IN-Tension

A peer-sharing & social focused rope jam.

Each month we will serve a juicy topic as your food for thought, and we invite you to bring your curiosity, and share your experience & skills, from both sides of the dynamic.

We will have space and hard points for us to lab, explore, create experiences together. The peer-based skill share panel is not mandatory, you are welcome to just come in and tie also.

Please note that this is a 21+ only event. There will be a social & open bar hour with alcoholic drinks. You must be 21 years old or older to attend this event.

Uplines w/ intention led by @MrKiltYou

How do you tie/lock off an upline? What do you do with the rest of the rope? Where do you place the hangers? As a bottom, what should you be looking out for? How do you help the Rigger to lift you... or should you be helping?

We invite you to share your thoughts and experiences with the crowd. Keep in mind that this is not a class, but a topic for our open forum.

Event Detail

Event: IN-Tension
Date: April 30, 2023
Time: 3pm - 7pm
Location: Hayward
(You will receive the address in your confirmation email)

Schedule

3pm: Door Opens
3:30pm - 4:30pm: Uplines w/ intention lead by @MrKiltYou
5pm: Door Closes
5pm - 6:30pm: Social & Open Bar
6:30pm: Wind down & Clean up

What do we have here?

An open space with lighting, mats, snacks & drinks for you to socialize, and geek out on rope skills with your fellow rope mates.

Bar opens at 5pm, please drink and play responsibly.

What should you bring?

You and your rope, and other little things that would brighten your rope scene! You should also pack for aftercare: stuffies, blankets, fancy chocolate etc.

Bring your own mats if you have them!

General Rules

Any violation of the rules might result in a hard ban from our future events. We might also share the incident report to other kink groups, especially in case of severe consent violations.

1. This is a 21+ event. There will be a social & open bar hour with alcoholic drinks. You must be 21 years old or older to attend this event.

2. Consent matters. Ask for explicit consent before engaging in any activities with others. Always ask before touching, that goes for people and their belongings. When in doubt, always ask first. Only an enthusiastic YES is a yes. If the other person seems hesitant or doubtful, please take that as a “no.” and don’t ask again.

3. Clearly communicate the potential risk of the play to the best of your ability.

4. Inclusivity is vital. There is zero tolerance for hate speech. Help create a safe space for everyone, regardless of their role, gender, ethnicity, orientation, religion, experience, or skill level.

5. Respect others’ scenes & space. Do not interrupt the scene and aftercare. If you have something important to ask, or need to notify someone who's in the scene, always approach the Top first with a quiet voice and polite manner.

6. Cleanliness. Please take care of our venue. Be considerate and clean up after yourself. It is hard to find kink-friendly space, and we hope this will be an on-going event.

7. Protect the venue. Please respect the venue, and do not vandalize or go to closed-off areas.

8. Do not share details or the location of the venue with non-attendees. If someone approaches you and asks for the address, point them to @Nocturnal_Events

9. Dress vanilla outside of the event area. Be discreet. If you wish to step outside, please at least wear a big coat over your kink wear.

10. Play responsibly. You may purchase alcoholic drinks during social hours. The Bartender will cut off the waistband for people who ordered alcoholic drinks. Please drink and tie responsibly, and make sure everyone involved is aware of your status and consent to it.

11. Nudity is okay, but no penetrative & oral sex. Penetrative & oral sex is not allowed for any gender/orientation (including fingering). Please limit your sensual play on genitals to foreplay only: touching, tying, vibrating, rubbing, slapping, etc. Always put down a mat under your play area if you are planning to be fully naked.

12. Playing outside of rope. While you are welcome to add some other kinky element to your rope scenes, please keep in mind that this is a peer-share focus rope jam, and keep your play rope-focus.

13. No Glitter.

14. The Hosts are here to help, but not here to parent you.
    If someone is making you uncomfortable, go to the Host, or ask your friend to accompany you to do so. We are here to help.

While we try our best to create a safe space, we can not police everything. Please use your own judgment when vouching play partners, ask around for references, ask a lot of questions, and trust your gut if anything feels off.

Covid Stuff

1. Vaccinated is a must. We will check ID & Vac card at the door.

2. Mask is recommended, but not required.

3. If you feel sick, stay home.

When in doubt, DM @Nocturnal_Events