When buying a ticket, for attendee name, give some identifiable information: FetLife name, scene name or phone number. Your full name does not help! We don't record your full name. We need this to know if you passed your screen.
The goal of this play party is to create a safe space for new and experienced people where everyone is actively negotiating to obtain enthusiastic consent, while respecting the boundaries of others. Additionally, we strive for diversity and inclusion in gender identity, race, sexuality, and sexual preference.
Please know that the party is for adults only and identification, for proof of age, is checked at the door.
We will be selling COVID-19 rapid antigen tests for $15 at the door and optionally bundled in with your ticket.
If you have not attended and want to, please send a thoughtful direct message to PerfectTommy introducing yourself, to start the screening process. You must reach out at least a week before the party. We get very busy the week of the party and your odds of getting screened are very, very low.
If you're not on FetLife.com, simply email TheSafehouseParty@gmail.com.
You must be screened to attend the party! We verify every ticket holder was screened.
To offset the costs, there is a cover charge to cover cleaning, food, beverages, damage repair and safe-sex supplies. The cost is $35 until 2 days before the party, then the price is $65. Please note that, if you arrive late (after 8PM), you must pay an additional $40. (We want people to be on-time.)
However, if you want to bring something, in lieu of a cover charge, please message PerfectTommy and let him know what you are bringing at least 3 days before the party starts. The donation should approximately cover your door fee.
Here are some things you can opt to bring, in order of popularity:
We're don't accept donations of alcohol. This is an alcohol-free event.
If the cost is too high, please consider volunteering and fill out (link: https://forms.gle/PJVzSGcV3fRrsbj18 text: this form. It’s a great way to meet people and you'd have our gratitude.
We have positions for:
If you haven't been to the parties, we suggest just starting off as a guest. Unless you're nervous, then we suggest you come early and help with setup to get a feel for your hosts and the environment.
A detailed guide to the party is available.