Safehouse February Party

COVID-19 Safety

• everyone must show proof of being fully-vaccinated and boosted.
• everyone must have a negative COVID-19 test. Either bring an unopened COVID-19 rapid test or purchase one at the door ($15)
• everyone will have their temperatures checked via a contactless thermometer
• anyone with flu-like symptoms will be asked to leave

Anyone with a failing test cannot be admitted to the party.

We will be selling COVID-19 rapid antigen tests for $15 at the door.

How to attend?

If you have not attended and want to, please send a thoughtful direct message to PerfectTommy or Sooosie introducing yourself, to start the screening process. You must reach out at least a week before the party. We get very busy the week of the party and your odds of getting screened are very, very low.

If you're not on FetLife.com, simply email TheSafehouseParty@gmail.com.

You must be screened to attend the party!

Why You May Want to Attend

• No gendered pricing scheme, creating male entitlement
• Everyone is screened for a detailed understanding of consent
• We take consent violations seriously
• The burden of a consent violation is on the person doing the offending action
• We are committed to creating a safe space for everyone
• Diversity and inclusion has been the goal from the start
• The party is not about money. The cover charge keeps the event self-sustaining.

Goal

The goal of this play party is to create a safe space for new and experienced people where everyone is actively negotiating to obtain enthusiastic consent, while respecting the boundaries of others. Additionally, we strive for diversity and inclusion in gender identity, race, sexuality, and sexual preference.

Cover Charge

To offset the costs, there is a cover charge to cover cleaning, food, beverages, damage repair and safe-sex supplies. The cost is $25 until a week before the party, $35 the week of the party, $65 the day of the party after 8pm. Please note that, if you pre-purchase at a lower cost and arrive late (after 8PM), you must pay an additional $20. (We want people to be on-time.)

However, if you want to bring something, in lieu of a cover charge, please message PerfectTommy and let him know what you are bringing at least 3 days before the party starts.

Or, if you want to volunteer, please reach out to our co-host and volunteer coordinator, Sooosie.

Donations to Lower/Avoid Cover Charge

Here are some things you can opt to bring, in order of popularity:

• Fruit, e.g. bananas, apples, oranges, grapes, etc.
• Sandwiches
• Chocolate
• Cold platter of either: fruit, veggies, cheese, meats
• Baked goods, cookies, cakes, etc.
• Soft drinks, sparkling water
• Compostable cutlery, drinking cups, plates (must be compostable)

We're don't accept donations of alcohol. This is a sober event.

Volunteering

If the cost is too high, please ask Sooosie about volunteering! It’s a great way to meet people and you'd have our gratitude. One hour of volunteer time gets you in free. Additional hours earn you a credit, which you can use at a future time or give to a friend.

We have positions for:

• Set-up - Arrives at 6pm. Sets up rooms with supplies, towels, etc. moves furniture.
• Monitors - Checks to ensure everyone is safe. You work 1 or more hours. For each hour past the first, you generate a credit for yourself or a friend.
• Clean-up - 1 hour from 2am to 3am. You are able to crash at the Safehouse.
• Screening - Perhaps the most important work.

If you haven't been to the parties, we suggest just starting off as a guest. Unless you're nervous, then we suggest you come early and help with setup to get a feel for your hosts and the environment.

Event Notes

• Fetish/sexy wear encouraged but not required.
• No jeans, sneakers or t-shirts. Dress to impress someone.
• There's an opening circle to hear the rules, expectations and introduce yourself as well as your desires and boundaries.
• After 8pm you must pay an additional $20 if you pre-paid or $60 if you have yet to pay after 8pm. (We want you present for the opening circle.)
• The only way to get the address is to be screened. You can't be screened if you don't contact PerfectTommy.
• You can pay in advance via Venmo or by cash at the door.

House Rules

• Do not discuss what goes on at the party outside the party.
• Respect everyone’s privacy and never reveal the identity of other attendees.
• Acquire enthusiastic consent from anyone before interacting.
• No cell phones out except in the garage or outside.
• Be welcoming, kind, courteous, and respectful to everyone.
• No smoking inside. (Smoking outside is fine.)
• No shoes, drinks or food upstairs. (Water is okay.)
• No play in the downstairs bathroom.
• No bare butts on furniture

A detailed guide to the party is available.