Shadow-Weavers EDU Presents: Vetting and Negotiations BDSM101

What is vetting?
Vetting is a term used in the lifestyle to describe the process of getting to know someone, typically for the purposes of having a scene, relationship, or power exchange dynamic. These are useful skills for everyone- the vanilla people could also benefit from learning these vital skills.

In this class we will discuss the right questions to ask, what not to ask, tips and tricks as well as how to identify red and green flags in your potential person.

Being comfortable and confident in your ability to vett someone thoroughly can make all the difference in safety and compatibility.

What are negotiations?

Negotiations are the practice of discussing what you want and do not want during a BDSM scene, relationship, or power exchange dynamic. This can seem pretty simple, but the deeper you dive into what needs to be negotiated- the more you learn about yourself and your potential person.

About the presenter:

Rhiannon Shadow-Weaver has been in the lifestyle for nearly a decade. She has been a 24/7 slave, pet, little, masochist, and many other roles during her journey within the BDSM lifestyle.

She has been teaching classes on BDSM safety for nearly 4 years and launched her own coaching and education business- Shadow-Weaver Coaching and Lifestyle Education ( @ShadowWeaversEDU ) one year ago. She has operated as Co-director of MAsT Rochester for 2 years.

In her vanilla career Rhiannon has equal time working in the field of social work, specifically within the mental health system. She has experience as a crisis specialist, Psychiatric technician, substance use counselor, and supported housing worker and is skilled in mental health first aid. Last year she obtained her Life Coach certification and now privately provides support to those in the kink, non monogamous, and LGBTQIA Lifestyles.