Kinky Connections: How to Meet Play Partners

Hosted by Feather & Flame

Meeting the right play partners can feel overwhelming, especially when no one ever taught you how kink social dynamics actually work. This class breaks down the unspoken rules of kink culture, common pitfalls, and proven strategies for connecting with others safely and authentically in the kink community. You’ll learn how to present yourself well, spot red and green flags, and navigate the community with confidence. No cruising, no pressure—just real skills that make your kink journey smoother and more fulfilling.

Membership: This class covers the core knowledge required for Feather & Flame membership. After completing the class, you may apply for membership by submitting the free membership application. Your application must demonstrate an understanding of the material covered in class and meet our membership criteria before it can be approved.

Inside This Class We’ll Cover:

• Kink social etiquette (it’s very different from the vanilla world!)
• Recommended apps/ websites to meet people through
• Tips for building profiles
• The Event Bullseye social networking system
• Red flags to look out for
• Green flags to look out for
• Vetting and safety techniques (for a deeper dive on this specific topic, we recommend taking our Vetting and Negotiations class)

Who can take this class?

• No experience required - we provide all equipment, etc.
• Anybody over the age of 18
• Any gender
• Both monogamous people, poly people, curious, swinger, etc. anybody!
• you can come alone or with a partner, or several, or friends, etc.
• All levels
• You do NOT have to be a member of Feather & Flame to take this class :) Anybody can buy a ticket

What to bring:

• A notebook and something to write with
• Optional: A water bottle with a spill-proof lid

Water/Snacks:

• We will have an assortment of snacks available (fruit, baked goods, etc.)
• We also provide hot tea, filtered water, and an assortment of soft drinks.

About the instructor:

Princess Raven is the owner of Feather & Flame, and has over a decade of experience as a Professional Dominant, and 5 years experience as a dating and relationship coach specializing in alternative relationship dynamics.

She enjoys making kink more accessible through education and events. She enjoys helping people get connected and giving them the tools and confidence to take the next step in their kink journey. Raven loves sharing her skill sets to help empower people to live healthy, sensual, happy lives!

Cancellation policy:

• 48 hrs - use Forbidden Tickets to get your refund (the ticketing platform that you purchased your ticket through)
• Please do not come if you are sick. Even if it’s “not Covid, just a small cold.” We are happy to roll your ticket over to a different class if you are sick

About Feather & Flame

We are a new studio located in Burlington, MA that opened in fall of 2025. We offer classes and social events for the BDSM and alternative relationship community.

Our exact address is sent out to ticket holders about 2 days before your class; this is for safety and security reasons.

Parking: We have plenty of free parking in our lot!

Accessibility: there is a flight of stairs to our unit, and our bathrooms are not large enough to accommodate a wheelchair, unfortunately. Service dogs are of course welcome, but we do request a heads-up please. If there are any other reasonable accommodations that we can make for you, please reach out!

Financial Accessibility: If you would like to help us out with set up and breakdown for the class, we are happy to offer you a discounted ticket! Simply select "volunteer ticket" at checkout. Volunteers are expected to arrive 45 min before class time, and stay 30 min after.

Privacy: For all in-person events, we require to check everyone's ID and everyone must sign a liability waiver for each class. This is standard at most facilities and ensures the safety of our community. If you are unwilling to unable to comply with either of these, then unfortunately our events are not a good fit for you!

• ID's are checked in person, upon arrival, and are not scanned, photographed, or kept on file in any way. Just like walking into a bar. Your ID cannot be expired, and we need the real thing - a photo of an ID is not legally acceptable ID.
• Raven is typically the person who is checking IDs, and if it is another staff member - they have signed an NDA as part of working at our facility, which lasts for many years after finishing working with F&F. We only hire staff who respect privacy and discretion.
• Liability waivers are emailed in advance so that you can review it, and is facilitated by a trusted, 3rd party software that is used by several large-scale kink conventions.
• if you have any questions, reach out to us at Info@FeatherAndFlameConsulting.com

Visit our website at: www.FeatherAndFlameConsulting.com to see our other events, or apply to become a member! Membership is free and gives you exclusive access to social events and advanced level classes (many of which are hidden, invite-only classes)