Vetting & Negotiations

Hosted by Feather & Flame (previously Black Bird Atelier)

Vetting and negotiation are the foundation of safe, fulfilling BDSM experiences—but they’re skills most people are never formally taught.

This class is designed for both newcomers and experienced players who want to sharpen their communication, strengthen their boundaries, and build safer, more intentional connections.

We’ll cover how to identify green and red flags, ask the right questions before a scene, navigate everything from coffee dates to pickup play, and advocate for your needs without killing the vibe.

Whether you’re a bottom prioritizing safety or a top wanting to be recognized as trustworthy and skilled, this class will give you practical tools to play smarter, safer, and with more confidence.

Inside This Class We’ll Cover:

• Vetting vs. negotiation
• Checking in with your own boundaries
• Green flags to look out for
• Red flags to look out for
• Navigating a coffee meetup
• Important questions to ask when vetting
• Community resources for checking up on incident reports, etc.
• Core topics for scene negotiation
• Pick-up play specific negotiation tips
• Safe words and check ins
• How to end a scene early
• Post scene debrief best practices
• Tips for your first scene with a new play partner

Who can take this class?

• Anybody over the age of 18
• Any gender
• Both monogamous people, poly people, curious, swinger, etc. anybody!
• you can come alone or with a partner, or several, or friends, etc.
• All levels - whether you're brand new to the scene or have been an active participant for several years
• You do NOT have to be a member of Feather & Flame to take this class :) Anybody can buy a ticket

About the Instructor: Princess_Raven

Princess_Raven is the owner of Feather & Flame, and has over a decade of experience as a Professional Dominant, and 5 years experience as a dating and relationship coach specializing in alternative relationship dynamics. She enjoys making kink more accessible through education and events.

About Feather & Flame

We are a new studio located in Burlington, MA. We offer classes for the alternative relationship community.

Our exact address is sent out to ticket holders about 2 days before your class; this is for safety and discretion reasons.

Parking: We have plenty of free parking in our lot!

Accessibility: there is a flight of stairs to our unit, and our bathrooms are not large enough to accommodate a wheelchair, unfortunately. Service dogs are of course welcome, but we do request a heads-up please. If there are any other reasonable accommodations that we can make for you, please reach out!

Financial Accessibility: If you would like to help us out with set up and breakdown for the class, we are happy to offer you a discounted ticket! Simply select "Volunteer Ticket" at checkout. Please arrive 45 min before class starts, and stay 30 minutes after.

Privacy: For all in-person events, we require to check everyone's ID and everyone must sign a liability waiver for each class. This is standard at most facilities. If you are unwilling to unable to comply with either of these, then unfortunately our events are not a good fit for you!

• ID's are checked in person, upon arrival, and are not scanned, photographed, or kept on file in any way. Just like walking into a bar. Your ID cannot be expired, and we need the real thing - a photo of an ID is not legally acceptable ID.
• Raven is typically the person who is checking IDs, and if it another staff member - they have signed an NDA as part of working at our facility, which lasts for many years after finishing working with F&F. We only hire staff who respect privacy and discretion.
• Liability waivers are emailed in advance so that you can review it, and is facilitated by a trusted, 3rd party software that is used by several large-scale kink conventions.
• if you have any questions, reach out to us at Info@FeatherAndFlameConsulting.com

Visit our website at: www.FeatherAndFlameConsulting.com to see our other events, or apply to become a member!