How to Spot Common Manipulation Strategies w/ Little Chaoss

CLASS DESCRIPTION

We, as submissives, are more likely to consent to extreme kinks when we feel we are in love and believe we can trust that person. However, trust can be built through lies and manipulation just as easily as it can be through honesty and transparency. Falling into these traps has nothing to do with weakness, but rather with how we think and feel.

Knowing common manipulation strategies is crucial in BDSM because it helps bottoms protect their emotional well-being, maintain healthy boundaries, and avoid predatory relationships. Manipulative individuals may use tactics such as gaslighting, guilt-tripping, or love bombing to control or deceive their partner. Being aware of these strategies allows you to identify red flags early in a play partner, helping to prevent emotional abuse or manipulation before it escalates.

Unfortunately, unethical dominance leads to injury on a regular basis in the kink community. Predators sometimes target a person’s self-esteem, making them feel insecure or dependent to foster unhealthy power exchange. This creates non-consensual and covert power imbalances in a D/s relationship. Knowing what to look for can help you protect yourself from nefarious individuals who use these strategies to control and coerce submissives.

Manipulative tactics often aim to break down personal boundaries, making someone more vulnerable to control or exploitation. Many forms of manipulation can lead to emotional abuse, and emotional injuries are often more expensive to treat with therapy and can take longer to heal than physical injuries. Recognizing these patterns enables you to address them or exit the relationship before it becomes harmful to your mental and emotional health.

In this course, we will discuss the natural ways a person begins to trust another and how predators and con artists use human nature to create an illusion of trustworthiness. We will analyze grooming tactics to better understand how these work in a BDSM context. Additionally, students will learn ways to detect lies, uncover insincerity, and recognize when they are being manipulated.

PRESENTER BIO

Little Chaoss (she/her) is a submissive serving the San Francisco scene with style and a smile.

Her D/s journey has spanned approximately 6 years solely as a submissive, bottom, and masochist. She has demo bottomed for numerous international BDSM and bondage workshops. Her expertise aligns with her enthusiasm for bottoming and submission, protocol, anal sex and stretching, and many forms of impact and bondage.

As an educator serving submissives and bottoms, her motivation is to equip her peers with valuable information so they can safely explore BDSM.

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