Learn how to play safely with triggers in scene.
Whether we are trying to play with triggers or they come up while we play, how do we know if they can be managed and incorporated into play or if we need to stop? When are we okay to keep going? Why would we want to intentionally play with them? What sort of aftercare does this kind of play need?
Lifestyle submissive and educator, xioayi has been triggered both as a top and bottom in play and she will share how she has learned ways to positively incorporate triggers into play and what precautions you might want to take to do so as well.
This sort of play is not to be taken lightly! Students are encouraged to bring their questions and curiosity to this insightful class. Everyone from all walks of life and levels of experience are welcome!
Note: This class will discuss many triggering topics such as Rape, Age Play, Abuse, and actively ignoring negotiations. There may be others things included as well. Please be warned and have your own aftercare plan ready in case it is needed.
xiaoyi is a slaveheart and bootblack at large. She/they is a teacher, coach, and speaker on topics including self-improvement, living a fulfilling life, living with invisible illnesses, sexual identities, gender, and BDSM. She is poly, pansexual, omni-sensual, Leather, and queer. They are most fulfilled in a 24/7 TPE-style relationship. She loves leather, costuming, pain, and protocols. They flag orange and Leather Worship. They has been teaching since 2012. She is honored to be Owned by Master Dennis and is also the Southwest Bootblack 2016.
xiaoyi’s mission is to help create understanding and acceptance among people for each to learn and grow and be as they are. She works to do this through education and demystification. They serve their community before themselves. She is a coach and speaker who openly shares her journey in hopes that she might help others who face similar challenges.
Seldom shy or at a loss for words, xiaoyi enjoys deep philosophical, spiritual, and religious discussions. She does not retreat from difficult topics or hesitate to admit she doesn’t know something. They are often working at events, but when they have a spare moment to follow their passions, they will most often be found in her dress or stripped down, caring for someone’s leather. She has no problems switching between elegant hedonist and bootblack because, for her, blacking is hedonistic.
Her favorite color is rainbow and her favorite flower is tulips. They have a wry sense of humor and red hair. When asked if the curtains match the drapes, she will gladly tell you ‘“ I installed hardwood.”
xiaoyi is a member of MAsT Colorado Springs, the Producer, and Owner of Colorado Leather Fest, and has served as the Metro-Denver Regional Director for the Colorado Center for Alternative Lifestyles, the Community Ambassador for Marquis Lifestyle Center, a Member of the Voodoo Leatherworks Leadership Committee, the Director of Operations for Colorado Leather Fest (6 years) and was the co-presenter/host the Denver Shibari Jams (6 years.)