Blush

All types of humiliation play are welcome at Blush - from light fun verbal play, to degradation, dehumanization, and everything in between. We provide an inclusive space where people of all experience levels, genders and orientations, can socialize and play. Humiliation play is a large and inclusive umbrella and almost everyone has at least one kink that falls under it.

The Set
The backdrop to Blush will be Black Thorn/Sacred Muse in Oakland. The venue features two distinct, high quality, well-appointed play-spaces featuring social areas, multiple play stations and showers.

Here is what you can look forward to at Blush:

• Ice-breaking introduction and conversation starters.
• Interactive humiliation with open invitation play.
• Exciting demo.
• Delicious finger foods.
• Captivating music.
• Two elegant dungeons to socialize and play in.

All Are Welcome

Blush is an inclusive event. We welcome kinky adults of all gender identities, sexual orientations, races, ethnicities, roles, and experience levels. This is a body-positive event. We expect all attendees to honor the diversity of our community at Blush.

Want to see who's going?

Match, chat, and meet the community - check out Blush on the Bloom Community app.

Tickets

Prepaid tickets are required to save your spot. No tickets will be sold on site. A portion of all ticket sales will go towards enabling access to the event for low-income community members. To request low income tickets please send an email to info@afterdark-events.com.

Important: You must be fully vaccinated and boosted as of the day of the event.

This means you must have received your booster on or before 2/12/2022 and can demonstrate this with your official digital vaccine record. If you received your vaccination in California please get your vaccination record QR code from the state website and show it to the security staff upon arrival at Blush along with your ID. We recommend that you screenshot the page with your QR code for easier retrieval. If you were vaccinated and/or boosted in a state or country without a digital vaccine record, see this Fetlife page.

Prior to being allowed to enter the party, the COVID-19 safety protocol for all guests is to:

• Verify with a digital vaccine record that they have been fully vaccinated and boosted against COVID-19 (If you were vaccinated in a state or country without a digital vaccine record, see this page for more information)).
• Have their temperature checked.
• Take a rapid COVID-19 test at the door.
• Remain masked throughout the party except when actively eating, drinking or engaging in oral play.

If a guest's temperature is elevated or their rapid test is positive for COVID-19 they will be disallowed entry and receive a refund of their ticket. The cost of the test is non-refundable.

More COVID-19 Safety Information

• Updated Entry Policy For COVID Omicron Variant of Concern
• Updated Mask Policy For Events
• Event Rules
• Consent Guidelines

Consent is Paramount

Part of our responsibility in fostering a consent culture is to provide some guidance to help prevent consent incidents from happening at our events.

• Informed and voluntary consent is always required before play. The entire scope of any scene, including what parts of the body there may be contact with and the nature of such contact, should be negotiated prior to beginning any actual play.
• People at our events come from different backgrounds and have vastly different life experiences. All attendees may expect to be treated by event staff and other attendees with respect irrespective of age, race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, gender identity, body type, disability, etc.
• People can expect that their persons and property shall not be touched without prior permission.
• Attendees should not be addressed as “Mistress”, “Sir”, “slut”, “slave”, etc. or any potentially offensive terms or violating words unless they have given prior permission.
• Each participant in a scene is responsible for making sure that everyone involved in the scene has the mental and emotional ability to give informed and voluntary consent for the scene. We consider people who are under the influence of substances, in subspace or otherwise not in a clear state of mind to be incapable of giving informed and voluntary consent.
• While playing, players may not do anything that was not already explicitly agreed to.
• Any participant in a scene has the right to withdraw consent at any time by means of an agreed-upon safeword, a non-verbal safe-sign or using the house safeword “SAFEWORD”. Once consent is withdrawn, all activity in the scene must stop.

Any consent concerns can be confidentially given to the hosts at the event, on Fetlife @Afterdark-Events or by email at info@afterdark-events.com.

What is humiliation play?

Consensual humiliation play is a powerful yet often misunderstood aspect of BDSM. Simply stated, it's any kind of activity in which one person says or does something that causes feelings of embarrassment, shame, or humiliation in the other. This can be something as simple as "dirty talk," for example by using terms like "slut" or "bitch" to refer to your partner. It can also be as complex as creating situations that are embarrassing to your partner, like exposing them in front of others, making them crawl around while on a leash, public scolding and discipline, etc.

So in essence humiliation is about power play - feeling powerless, or making someone else feel powerless. When done ethically, humiliation can build a person's mental strength, provide catharsis and raise self-esteem even as it takes away that person's power during the play. Being objectified and appreciated as a piece of art, or interrogated about things like fantasies that have never been shared with others, make for great humiliation scenes that can empower the bottom in many ways long after a scene is finished.

Humiliation play is different from most types of play because it plays mainly with emotions. Different people have different emotional triggers, so the range of activities considered to be humiliation play is huge. What one person finds embarrassing, another person might not react to at all. Humiliation play is mostly about the feelings it produces, not just the activities themselves.